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"Getting Over It! is an easy-to-read book that shows you how to bring your best self to the challenging, often painful experience of divorce."
An 8 Step Book to Raising Happy Children and Living a Successful Life After Divorce!

"Getting Over IT! Wisdom for Divorced Parents" makes that Possible Now.

Reading this book can change your life.
  • You're a divorced parent and you're worried about your future.
  • You're worried about your children's future.
  • How will this divorce affect your children?
  • How could your dream of an ideal, two-parent family have been so destroyed?
  • Are you afraid you’ll ever be able to trust someone to love you again?

You thought the future was certain and everything was going along smoothly. Now, it's all a big unknown and it's scary. You know it's not good for you or the kids to be so angry but how do you get over it? You know it's not healthy for the kids to see you upset. You want happy kids. You know that what you do now and in the next few years will have an impact on them for the rest of their lives.

Getting Over It! is an easy-to-read book that shows you how to bring your best self to the challenging, often painful experience of divorce. With the authority of someone who's "been there," Len Stauffenger explores important themes such as courage, forgiveness, how to be present with your children, taking personal responsibility, communication and honesty—all of which will translate into greater success and satisfaction in all your relationships.

Jennifer Read Hawthorne, co-author
Chicken Soup for the Woman's Soul
and Life Lessons for Loving the Way You Live

You know that your relationship with your ex will have an impact on them.
  • Do you start dating? When?
  • When do you introduce them to someone new?
  • What do you tell them about why your marriage didn't work –why it didn't last?
  • How do you get over it? How do you move forward?

These are the most important years of your children's lives. You're the one they look to but you're under more pressure than you've ever been under. You're a lone parent and you've got to deal with finances, emotions, relationships, dating again or perhaps a new marriage and at the same time be a role model for your children.

Yes, I've been where you are! You Do Have The Ability To Get It All Back On Track. The good news is that the answers you desperately need are already there inside of you. You need a little coaching; you need some direction. The best place to get that coaching is from someone like this single parent who was once where you are now and found his way out.

This is my story When I was 32 years old my wife left. She took all the money and the house, and I became a debt-laden single dad living in an apartment and raising two daughters by myself.

Within a year, my daughters and I were out of that apartment and I was building a new house (in a desirable neighborhood). Within two years of my divorce I had met the real "love of my life." When we met, our four children ranged in age from 8 to 12. We have now been together for 13 years. Three of the kids have graduated from college and the fourth will graduate in May, 2008.

All four of our children are emotionally stable, healthy, and happy young adults. The "real love of my life" is a woman named Betsy. She's been my best friend and my lover for twelve years and we're still going strong. All four kids went through their parents' divorce and all four kids came out strong and healthy on the other side. They all turned out to be everything I could hope for because we consciously worked on that parent children relationship. On top of that I now own three successful businesses and I wrote a book. I did this as a single parent.

I'm not saying this to brag, I'm saying it to give you confidence that you can be a successful, divorced father or mother too whether you choose to stay single or if you choose to enter into another serious relationship or marriage.

Because I went through what you're going through now and because I "somehow" managed to make it all work out for me and my children I wanted to share my "system" or my formula if you will, with you because I care about the future of this world.

At, you'll learn these Five Key Steps (and many more!) to help you be a successful single parent:
  • Making a plan for your children's success
  • Letting go of your negative feelings about your ex
  • Recognizing the privilege of your parenting opportunity
  • Your divorce may be patterned behavior that you can change
  • Creating stability for your kids with boundaries

As a divorcing mother of three children, my primary goal has always been to successfully parent my children. "Getting Over It" is a practical, step-by-step guide filled with tools to help me achieve my goal. It reminded me to embrace the changes in my life and to see my divorce as a tremendous opportunity – for both my children and myself. This book is filled with wisdom, humor, and insight that anyone who is divorcing or divorced will relate to. "Getting Over It" is inspiring, entertaining, and easy to read – I would recommend it to anyone who wants to be a more effective parent.

Krista Combs
Stow - Ohio

Divorce is an almost epidemic in Western societies and it creates pain and hurt among our children. But it doesn't have to scar them because on the other side of the pain is joy. But there is a way you must navigate through the pain for you and your children.

I've worked these steps and gotten great results. I want to share them with you so you can get through your divorce more quickly. You'll be better off and so will your children. I want to help you "get over it" because that is the first step in building a foundation for a successful life for you and your children.

My divorce was probably one of the best things that ever happened to me because it set me free and it set my children free.

In the back of my mind I always thought I should write my book. I always thought I should tell my story because it might help others because I really did develop a way of doing things that worked very, very well. I can't even take credit for it because I had a lot of help along the way but I used all the resources I could to raise my children the best that I possibly could.

Along the way I developed a "system" and I don't mean that it's as simple as punching numbers into a computer but I think of it as a system of building blocks. It's a system of laying down a foundation for you as a person and for your children. It's a system for building a successful life for you and for your children. I didn't invent it and it's not new. I'm sure that people have been using the same system - the same building blocks for thousands of years. It is sort of along the lines of that old saying "It takes a village to raise a child." But in our modern world, with the hectic pace in which we live, and with our family scattered, it's sometimes hard to find that "village." I've created that village at and you can find your help there.


A must read for parents of divorce. The heart and wisdom of the good father post divorce. If all of my clients of divorce could have and would now read this book, their lives and the lives of their divorced partners and children would be oh so much better.

Jeannette Lofas, PhD, LCSW
President, Stepfamily Foundation
Stow - Ohio

So what I really did was rediscover all the things I had been taught as a child by my parents and grandparents, learned from other terrific people, studied other "foreign" disciplines like meditation and Reiki and then applied it all to my life and my children's lives.

My children are raised; my job is done. I didn't need to write this book. I get to sit back and relax now.

For about ten years I thought about writing this book but there was always something else to do. Then a funny thing happened once the kids were grown. I had more time. You cannot imagine what a miracle that feels like. So I wrote the book and then I created this website so I can help you avoid the pain I went through and help you get to a better place faster than I did.

Whether you buy the book or not, it won't change my life but it might very well change yours. So why not join us today, buy my book, join our little community and have one safe haven in your divorced life. You won’t regret it.

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