I loved this artilce at About.com on being a single parent on Valentine’s day… by the way, check out my holiday article at About.com as well;)

http://tinyurl.com/caeunj

~Len

Len :: Feb.03.2010 :: General :: No Comments »

Weekly Book Excerpt:

“Try to make it worse… So face your fears; dredge up whatever is the most painful thing for you. It may be that for you the most painful thing is to think of your husband with that other woman at the nicest restaurant in town laughing, joking, touching, gazing into each other’s eyes, having a wonderful time whily you are at home making dinner for the kids. You might not even know if that example actually happened. Just imagine that it did, and then make it worse.”

This might sound strange to you, but I have received a ton of positive feedback about this chapter in my book. This part has nothing to do with the kids. It’s about how you feel about your spouse being unfaithful, or wanting to leave if that was the case. It’s about facing the pain and dealing with it. Take a futher look in the book!

~Len

Len :: Feb.01.2010 :: Caring for Yourself After Divorce :: No Comments »

Below is my excerpt of the week:

“Make Rules, then Enforce Them: One quick way to establish trust is to establish rules. Do this witht he imput of your children. It depends on their age, but sit down with them and let them know there are rules in your house, rules in their relationships. With their imput, establish those rules. Make sure the rules are clear and that everyone agrees to them. This is important: Let them know the rules are not a burden. Teach them that the rules are a bonus, a benefit……Your kids don’t need you to be the most fun parent or more fun than Mom. They need a parent who can guide them, a parent they can trust. Be careful what you say and how you live.”

This is just a small part of the chapter: “Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say”… I feel it is probably the most important chapter in the book regarding how your kids turn out!

~Len

Len :: Jan.19.2010 :: Disciplining Children :: No Comments »

Everyone usually can agree that the new year is a chance to start over in a variety of ways. Going through a divorce although difficult, sad, and frustrating is a start to the new YOU! The only person who can put a positive twist on this hard situation is you. Here are a few tips to start you off…

1. Improve something about your physical appearance. You may be surprised that something physical would be my first tip, but it is all tied together where it counts. When we are going through a divorce, it’s easy to let ourselves go physically. Our health and our appearance can suffer which inturn brings us down emotionally. So do something about it! Start a new exercise routine! Vow to go to the doctor more regularly!

2. Visit people you haven’t seen in a long time. Right now you are in a place where you tend to be extremely inwardly focused. Take a break from thinking about your own problems. Visit some friends or family that you haven’t seen in awhile. It will give a break from your reality and recharge your battery.

3. Break a bad habit. Whether it’s smoking, drinking too much, shopping, biting your nails, it doesn’t matter, break the habit. Prove to yourself how strong you are and stop making excuses!

~Len

Len :: Jan.08.2010 :: Caring for Yourself After Divorce :: No Comments »

Change is something that is inevitable. We can’t stop it. Below is an excerpt from my book about the power of embracing change instead of rejecting it!

“Embrace Change…. People generally don’t like change. We resist it even though we know it’s inevitable. Someone once said we’re all a little bit insane. That’s sort of a dramatic way of getting your attention, but you do have to admit that we all do irrational things. We know that change is ivevitable. We know that it will come into our lives, and yet we resist it…”

This is probably the most important chapter in the book. It applies to every one of us! If you have read the book, take a minute to go back through and re-read this chapter. It WILL help. If you haven’t read it… now’s your chance!

~Len

Len :: Jan.06.2010 :: Caring for Yourself After Divorce :: No Comments »