Book Excerpt:

“It’s human nature not to like to deal with unpleasant things, unpleasant situations, or unpleasant people.  It’s also human nautre to suffer.  but smart humans get past the suffering by dealing with their demans straight up. 

When I was a kid, anyone who got sick was dragged to the doctor’s office for a shot.   We would always moan and cry and whine about not wanting to go.  We would make every argument we could think of, and ultimately our mom would drag us kicking and screaming to the doctor’s for a shot.  Every time it made us feel better, but damn, that shot hurt!…

The lesson her is:  Deal with the quick, intense pain, and get over that long, dragged-out, torturous stuff.  You can peel the Band-Aid off slowly and painfully, or you can pull it off quickly and be done with it.  Your choice”

~Len

blog-admin :: Aug.03.2010 :: Caring for Yourself After Divorce, General :: No Comments »

I know how it can be during the Summer months with kids.  Working or not, single, married, or divorced, it’s tough to come up with things to do.   I get so sick of hearing “I’m bored!”  While kids on average do a great job of playing outside, swimming or watergun fights, everyone needs a little direction sometime. 

I have searched high and low and I love this website!  It has great ideas in a number of catergories! Such as; crafts, games, and family activities.

Check it out and let me know what you think! 

http://tinyurl.com/3ydf58f

~Len

blog-admin :: Jul.09.2010 :: Caring for your Children, Current Affairs :: No Comments »

Book Excerpt

“Teaching is what you do every time you interact with your children.  And it always happens today.  Whether you’re helping with homework, going to watch a basketball game, or sitting down to have dinner, you are teaching them.  It doesn’t matter if you’re having dinner in your kitchen or if you’re a part-time parent who is having dinner at McDonald’s.  What matters is that you’re really there.  You are a guide and an anchor. Know that you are a teacher, that you are a role model.  That’s how you will have the greatest impact on your children.  Parenting isn’t about stirring speeches or big events.  It’s about the quiet times and the little things.”

~Len

blog-admin :: Jun.28.2010 :: Caring for your Children, General :: No Comments »

When we are married we start to learn how to rely on each other.  You were supposed to right?  Going from the state of marriage to being a single parent is mind blowing to say the least.  You have to learn how to rely on yourself.

I found that after my divorce I lost my faith in people to some degree.  My system was in such a state of shock that I was no longer married that I started to believe that the only person I could count on was ME!

In some ways, it’s true.  Being married does mean working as a team, but not being dependant on someone else.  Nevertheless, it’s hard to start you mind in the direction of thinking that now… EVERYTHING IS ON YOU!

It’s less intimidating if you just accept it.  I don’t mean that you won’t have help from family and friends, but the big stuff is up to you.  It’s also a blessing sometimes.  Enjoy the fact that for now, you are completely in control of your life.  You are the one to make the decisions and you will either reap the positive or negative impacts.  It can be quite satisfying to learn how strong you really are.

~Len

blog-admin :: Jun.26.2010 :: Caring for Yourself After Divorce :: No Comments »

Here is a link to my latest radio interview!  It was fantastic and I would love to get some feedback from my followers! 

http://tinyurl.com/3yarfo4

~Len

blog-admin :: Jun.15.2010 :: Current Affairs :: No Comments »