It's hard to imagine a more emotionally charged time in your life than right now, right?  All of the feelings that you are experiencing right now are completely normal and understandable, but you have to know when to put a lid on it.  Sometimes emotions get in the way.  They can stand in the way of what you are trying to accomplish. 

When it comes to disciplining your children, you always need to try and have a clear head.  Discipline should never be laced with emotion, rather emotion free.  You need to look at discipline differently then probably every other area in your relationship with your kids. 

Every situation needs to be treated as an objective problem, not subjective.  When you are evaluating how to discipline a child that has done something wrong, you need to remove yourself from the situation.  Look at the situation as if it were happening to your friend and you were giving her advice.  What would you tell her?

You need to recognize your personal feelings and push them aside for the time being.  Your children's feelings should be considered all of the time, but you have to remember to never let guilt drive you.  If you discipline your children with emotion you will always lose the battle, which can lead to losing the war.  If you can't do this, you need to take a time out yourself and come back to the situation a little later.   

I know this is all easier said than done, but nothing worthwhile is ever easy, right.  You will be far happier with the result if you can master this task.  Just remember, be objective.  Look from the outside in.  Take the emotion out.  You will be doing just fine.

Len :: Nov.23.2007 :: Disciplining Children ::

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