In many of these articles I talk about the importance of having time to focus on yourself.  If you are going through a divorce or are recently divorced you will need to rely on friends and family more than you probably ever have before.  Having time to yourself can be pretty tricky when you have kids.  I have some pointers on simple ways to accomplish this very needed relaxation.

Tips on Making Life a Little Easier

1. Lean on your parents. (if possible)   You may be saying that it isn’t their problem, or maybe you have had tension with them since the divorce.  Whatever the case may be they are your parents just the same.  They should be helping you through this tough time in your life.  It isn’t that much to ask to have them baby sit for you a couple times a month so you can catch a breather. 
2. Lean on your ex in-laws.  Yep, you heard me right.  Every situation is different, and they could possibly hate your guts, but your kids are still their grandkids.  My advice it to use their help when you need to do every day tasks that would be easier minus the kids like grocery shopping or talking with your attorney.  Just be straight to the point.  Tell them you need some help.
3.  Lean on a good friend:  Everyone has someone that they can confide in.  Who is that person that always has your best interest at heart?  Who do you know that really cares for your kids?  Talk to them.  Ask them for some help with what you have to do now without your husband or wife that you had before.

Finally, just take some time to put a plan in action.  We all feel better when we have something to look forward to.  If you can sit down with some of these important people and make up some sort of schedule, you and your kids will benefit greatly!

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Len :: May.13.2008 :: Caring for Yourself After Divorce ::

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