I came across a really good article on dating after divorce. Check it out and give me some feed back on what you think or if you have any additional advice!

~ Len

http://tinyurl.com/yl4g2ym

Len :: Mar.08.2010 :: Caring for Yourself After Divorce, Caring for your Children :: No Comments »

Below is an excerpt from my book…

” I remember very clearly driving to a family birthday party with the kids shortly after my divorce. I knew my brothers would be there with their wives, their kids and my parents… one big, happy family. There would only be one failure in the family - me.”

Now this is just the beginning of this really important section of my book. All I could focus on that day was ME. I was a failure. I couldn’t cut it. I remember my kids talking to me and me giving them routine answers because I could think of anything but how I felt. I didn’t even take into account the fact that they were just excited to go to the birthday party, and had absolutely no focus whatsoever on me being a “failure”.

They were fine until they noticed I wasn’t fine. I looked at myself in the rearview mirror and wondered what the hell I was doing. We only had that car ride, that moment and I was ruining it.

It’s the biggest challenge, in my opinion, that we all as adults face… living in the “NOW” the PRESENT. Even as you read this, I’m sure you are thinking about the past or the future, both of which you can’t do anything about. You are missing out on your only guarantee. This moment is all any of us have. Take it by the horns. Live your life, right now.

~Len

Len :: Dec.21.2009 :: Caring for Yourself After Divorce, Caring for your Children :: No Comments »

Chapter 5: Things to Consider

* Visualize the future you want for you and your children.

* What can you do today to move toward that goal ( think only about today)

* When is that last time you heard someone in an arguement admit they were wrong?

* Be honest with your children without “blaming”

* Listen to the answers inside you

Chapter 5 is one of my favorite chapters, because it allows you to think positively toward your future. You will realize that you are in control of your destiny and much of your children’s and you have all the power that you need right inside you.

~Len

Len :: Nov.23.2009 :: Caring for Yourself After Divorce, Caring for your Children :: No Comments »

” It doesn’t matter. Done is done. You’ve heard this before: You can’t control what other people do; you can only control how you react to it.”

This is probably my most favorite quote from the entire book. Have you heard the saying…” Life is 10% what happens and 90% our attitude”? I couldn’t agree more. Living as human beings gives us a unique perception on things. We are not logical. We are not factual. We are emotional. We say, do and react with emotion all the time. Sad, mad, happy… It doesn’t matter! We base everything in life on how we “feel” about it. Your “feelings” are your CHOICE! Don’t say you can’t help it! You can! It is your decision how to process things in your own mind. So something bad happens; your wife leaves you. I’m not saying you aren’t going to feel sad or mad, I’m saying it’s up to you how long you let that sadness control your life.

We only have so much time on this Earth. Make the life you want. Your reactions to things, whether negative or positive, will influence everyone around you on how to feel about whatever you are saying or doing.

So today your goal is your REACTION. Really focus on cause and effect. If you would normally react to an everyday situation negatively. Change your tune and react positively. See how you feel after the new reaction and see how it positively affects everyone around you!

~Len

Len :: Oct.21.2009 :: Caring for Yourself After Divorce, Caring for your Children :: No Comments »

Here is my link for the week! First of all, I love love love Halloween. It is just about having fun, so here is an article about being a single parent on Halloween that I really found helpful and interesting!

http://tinyurl.com/yj4bmd2

Enjoy,
Len

Len :: Oct.14.2009 :: Caring for Yourself After Divorce, Caring for your Children, Current Affairs :: No Comments »