I came across a really good article on dating after divorce. Check it out and give me some feed back on what you think or if you have any additional advice!

~ Len

http://tinyurl.com/yl4g2ym

Len :: Mar.08.2010 :: Caring for Yourself After Divorce, Caring for your Children :: No Comments »

Here are the things to consider from Chapter 4 of “Getting Over It”…

~ Forgiviness is for you, stupid!

~ Acitvate forgivness by understanding why.

~ Develop faith by thinking of situations that “worked out” (i.e., the ong run).

~ Do you want to be “right” or happy?

~ Blaming accomplishes nothing positive.

This is a very helpful chapter titled, “Forgive, But Don’t Forget” By reading it, it allows you to take a deeper look at your ending marriage and gives you the tools to move in a postive direction.

~ Len

Len :: Feb.17.2010 :: Caring for Yourself After Divorce :: No Comments »

Weekly Book Excerpt:

“Try to make it worse… So face your fears; dredge up whatever is the most painful thing for you. It may be that for you the most painful thing is to think of your husband with that other woman at the nicest restaurant in town laughing, joking, touching, gazing into each other’s eyes, having a wonderful time whily you are at home making dinner for the kids. You might not even know if that example actually happened. Just imagine that it did, and then make it worse.”

This might sound strange to you, but I have received a ton of positive feedback about this chapter in my book. This part has nothing to do with the kids. It’s about how you feel about your spouse being unfaithful, or wanting to leave if that was the case. It’s about facing the pain and dealing with it. Take a futher look in the book!

~Len

Len :: Feb.01.2010 :: Caring for Yourself After Divorce :: No Comments »

Everyone usually can agree that the new year is a chance to start over in a variety of ways. Going through a divorce although difficult, sad, and frustrating is a start to the new YOU! The only person who can put a positive twist on this hard situation is you. Here are a few tips to start you off…

1. Improve something about your physical appearance. You may be surprised that something physical would be my first tip, but it is all tied together where it counts. When we are going through a divorce, it’s easy to let ourselves go physically. Our health and our appearance can suffer which inturn brings us down emotionally. So do something about it! Start a new exercise routine! Vow to go to the doctor more regularly!

2. Visit people you haven’t seen in a long time. Right now you are in a place where you tend to be extremely inwardly focused. Take a break from thinking about your own problems. Visit some friends or family that you haven’t seen in awhile. It will give a break from your reality and recharge your battery.

3. Break a bad habit. Whether it’s smoking, drinking too much, shopping, biting your nails, it doesn’t matter, break the habit. Prove to yourself how strong you are and stop making excuses!

~Len

Len :: Jan.08.2010 :: Caring for Yourself After Divorce :: No Comments »

Change is something that is inevitable. We can’t stop it. Below is an excerpt from my book about the power of embracing change instead of rejecting it!

“Embrace Change…. People generally don’t like change. We resist it even though we know it’s inevitable. Someone once said we’re all a little bit insane. That’s sort of a dramatic way of getting your attention, but you do have to admit that we all do irrational things. We know that change is ivevitable. We know that it will come into our lives, and yet we resist it…”

This is probably the most important chapter in the book. It applies to every one of us! If you have read the book, take a minute to go back through and re-read this chapter. It WILL help. If you haven’t read it… now’s your chance!

~Len

Len :: Jan.06.2010 :: Caring for Yourself After Divorce :: No Comments »