Okay, so “step” families of some kind will probably be in your future if they aren’t already and it can get very complicated.  Even if you aren’t directly involved with anyone, chances are your children will be introduced to your ex’s significant other and/or his/her children.  If I’m just being honest, that can be very upsetting to you.  We are all human and possesive. 

I’m not going to lie, when my ex wife remarried right away, it was difficult for me to except that my girls would be around another man.  Another man in a father figure role, nonetheless!  I hated it!  It would make my blood boil just thinking about my kids calling another man dad or even thinking of another man as their father.

Luckily, my worries were for nothing.  Although it was still very hard for me to accept another man in my children’s life, I was never replaced as their father.  They loved me just as much as they always had and didn’t think of the other man as their dad, just as a friend who was married to their mom. 

If we can keep in perspective, what actually is going on instead of speculating and letting our fears rule us, we will see the situations in our life for what they are.  Your children will always be yours and even if you lived miles away from them,  you can’t be replaced.

Len :: Feb.04.2009 :: Caring for Yourself After Divorce :: No Comments »