Be Fully Present with your Kids… Even When It’s Nearly Impossible
Below is an excerpt from my book…
” I remember very clearly driving to a family birthday party with the kids shortly after my divorce. I knew my brothers would be there with their wives, their kids and my parents… one big, happy family. There would only be one failure in the family - me.”
Now this is just the beginning of this really important section of my book. All I could focus on that day was ME. I was a failure. I couldn’t cut it. I remember my kids talking to me and me giving them routine answers because I could think of anything but how I felt. I didn’t even take into account the fact that they were just excited to go to the birthday party, and had absolutely no focus whatsoever on me being a “failure”.
They were fine until they noticed I wasn’t fine. I looked at myself in the rearview mirror and wondered what the hell I was doing. We only had that car ride, that moment and I was ruining it.
It’s the biggest challenge, in my opinion, that we all as adults face… living in the “NOW” the PRESENT. Even as you read this, I’m sure you are thinking about the past or the future, both of which you can’t do anything about. You are missing out on your only guarantee. This moment is all any of us have. Take it by the horns. Live your life, right now.
~Len
Len :: Dec.21.2009 :: Caring for Yourself After Divorce, Caring for your Children :: No Comments »
