Are My Feelings Subjective or Objective?
Weekly book excerpt:
Are My Feelings Subjective or Objective?
” If your feelings about your ex are only focused on him or her, they are subjective and not doing you one bit of good. Whatever issues your spouse had with you weren’t solved because he or she left you. They may put on a good face because they especially want to look good infront of you. But most likely, their problems haven’t gone away. Regardless of whether they have or not, it’s not up to you to correct them.”
The focus is no longer your ex. It can’t be. You are not one single family unit anymore. The focus needs to be your children and yourself. Spending day after day holding a grudge against your ex is too much work and very destructive. Look at the bigger picture. The smaller your thinking the more subjective you are being, the bigger the thinking the more objective.
Whataya think?
Len
Len :: Mar.16.2010 :: Caring for Yourself After Divorce :: No Comments »
